The Mask Whisperer

Part II In Part I of this series, I talked about a training I participated in at work called the Student Support Network. I discussed how many young adults are suffering from mental illness but now I want to talk about the WHY. Why are young adults struggling so badly these days? Is life really that different than when we were young? The answer to that is YES. In my training, I learned that there isn’t one reason that mental illness in young adults is on the rise. One theory as to why it feels so prevalent is due to the lack of stigma about mental health today in our culture. The shame of being depressed, having anxiety, or a learning disability is gone. Which is great! It means we’ve evolved. We've also gotten better at diagnosing and getting people the treatment they need. Which also begs the question, are more people having mental illness, or are we just better at diagnosing, perhaps even over diagnosing? We may never know. While de-stigmatization and absence

(Disclaimer: I am not a mental health professional. I'm sure professionals in this arena would have a lot to add but this blog is commentary based on a training I took part in at work. I don't claim to have all the answers or knowledge, it's just commentary and opinion. This is a two part blog because I had so much to say about this topic that I broke it into two parts. Part II will dive into the "why" kids are struggling with mental illness.) Part 1:  I recently had a great opportunity at work to participate in a training called the Student Support Network. The training was developed at WPI and is used by many colleges across the nation. It was initially created for students, including resident hall assistants, to teach them how to be an effective support system for their fellow students. To learn warning signs of mental illness/suicide, and how to connect friends to support resources like the counseling center if necessary. It was developed in response

“Something lost? A part of yourself, perhaps? That which you seek, inside you will find.” - Yoda I saw the new Star Wars movie a few weeks ago. I enjoyed it very much mostly because it had a very spiritual, and timely, message of hope. It also had a message that the power to change anything, or overcome darkness, comes from within. Star Wars has always been about the struggle between good and evil both in the universe and with its character's internal struggles. Some struggled more than others, like Anakin Skywalker, aka: Darth Vader. Without getting too much into it, Anakin had a strong force - of good - within him when Qui-Gon Jinn, the Jedi Master, discovered the young boy. Jinn said that the force within Anakin was so strong that he was the “chosen one”, the one they’d been waiting for to restore balance in the galaxy. And then.... Anakin turned and went to the dark side, which ultimately greatly upset the balance. If you've watched all the movies, you know

“We lose connection with our realness when others have standards on how we should be.”  Tara Brach I’d like to say a big F-you, sayonora, and good riddance to 2017 but my therapist says that’s not nice. She says that without all the tough lessons I had this year, I would not have grown. And...she’s right (but don’t tell her that...) Every day I choose an Angel Card (see link) to give me a word, something to contemplate and guide me as the day goes on. Each year on New Year’s Day, I chose a theme word for the year and then I review it on the last day of the year. Last January I got "Education". To be honest, when I picked it, I was a little disappointed. I guess I thought the word was boring. I’m sure my angels were laughing at me then. They knew what they were doing, as always, because I definitely got an education this year! I got my PhD in me and let me tell you, it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. 2017 was a year of transitions at home and work. It was

"Once you choose hope, anything's possible. " Christopher Reeves My father was very sick before he passed away in the wee hours of a cold January morning nearly five years ago. During the last month of his life, he either spent a lot of time in the hospital (due to several bouts of pneumonia related to his COPD) or at the dialysis center (due to his failing kidneys). He was very sick. The doctor’s discharged him from the hospital two days before he died because he was doing a little better. They would have preferred he go to a rehabilitation center but my mom wanted him home. I sat with him the day before he died while my mom went to pick up some medicine for him. He told me, while we ate lunch, that he was not that sick and that he would be driving again very soon. He said it so emphatically as if he knew something I didn’t. Not only was he convinced that he would  be driving very soon (something he hadn’t been able to do for months before he passed) but he

"Joy is a net of love by which you can catch souls." Mother Theresa I had someone say to me the other day that this world has no joy. Just sit with that one for a minute. No joy? Doesn’t that sound hopeless? I was left with this empty feeling in my heart and her words have reverberated in my head ever since. No joy? How sad is that?   I think that she was referring to the relentless negative news that fills our newsfeeds and how beat down she felt by it all. The media - mainstream or social - is a constant barrage of all that is wrong with the world. Climate change/natural disasters, sexual predators, shootings, animal cruelty, war, insane dictators armed with nuclear weapons....it just goes on and on. If you focus on all of that then I can imagine how one might feel there is no joy in the world. A few years ago, I bought a mantra band that says, “Choose Joy.” I wear it often as a reminder that joy is a choice. It's not something you should take for gran